I am getting sad. There is no sign of J. He seemed like such a nice and decent guy and then all of a sudden he disappears of the edge of the Earth. I have not contacted him once today and I have also not heard anything back. I am really sad.
I have also decided to officially stop working for Residential Life and therefore I will not be a Resident Advisor next year! Thank God! I am done with this job. There are just so many different activities that I can do with my life that I care a lot about. For example I can finally join the triathlon club, which I have been dying to join. I can also join the swim club and several other activities. I am still going to live on-campus, but right next to the gym! I can finally have a chance to make something of myself as an athlete!
I also will have the time and opportunity to explore more of the gay community in my town. I will go to the one dance that is lgbtqa that happens once a month. I have never been. I hear it is a lot of fun, kind of gay overkill, but there are a few decent guys there. Most want to hook up, however one might be a keeper! All I can do is wait!
I really love good facial hair. It is either done right or should be shaved. These guys have hot beards/scruff and I love it. Even though I’m 21 I can’t quite grow perfect facial hair yet. one more year, somehow the guys I date can grow perfect beards. They’re hot, I’m jealous.
In terms of of this poster i’m not sure it’s accurate. Do gay men decide to be gay? or is discover a better word? and also a lot of gay men don’t flaunt being gay, what does that mean? flaunt being gay? because I am just a regular guy and when I found out or came to realize I was gay I didn’t really act any different. soo….flaunting it. not so sure on this poster.
OK. so where I live it is really hard to meet decent men. Most of the guys that I could meet in public or in social relations are really flamboyant or feminine, and any that are masculine are not out and therefore really hard to tell. I therefore struggle with meeting men that are like myself, because unless I am completely out, which I am only out to a few friends, then people wont guess I am gay as well. Once I told a couple friends they introduced me to a couple other guys, however these guys had different interests and were slightly more feminine than I was. They are still great guys, but no one I would want to share my whole life with.
I therefore end up resorting to Craigslist or Manhunt (which I only did for one week). I have only met a couple decent guys on here. One responded to my post and told me he’d be here by the end of feb to beginning of march. He said he was going to be here for a few years because of work, and that is why he was going to live in my town/small city. I started talking to him, he was an ex-marine, worked for the gov’t, decent guy. We talked for about four hours a couple weekends ago on the phone! I loved talking to this guy. He wanted a relationship and everything, assuming things clicked. He wasn’t looking for a one-time hook up; which is great because I am kind of done of the whole hooking up scene (that’s another post though)
Anyway, this guy, we’ll call him J, is amazing and he liked me in return. So we basically have been phone dating for about 10 days! wow, so many texts, cause he can text at his job and I’m in school so I can text at random times too! It’s great, however something happened last weekend, with his work or something and I haven’t heard from him for the last 2-3 days. And I only got a couple texts from Sunday on-ward. We were talking about 30 min on the phone a day and 50 texts+. Something serious must have happened. I trust his word that he isn’t sleeping with someone, because he’s just too decent of a guy and he isn’t out in his town, so it’s not easy for him to meet people.
I guess all I can do is wait. I am done trying to text him and leave nice voicemails. I’m waiting for him. But I am sort of sad, because he did bring up my mood every time we talked.
I am junior in college and worked for ResLife for the last two years. I am completely sick of all the training and talk about diversity. I am white, I am male, I am 21, and I am gay. Where do I fall? I am diverse. I hear so many stereotypes about gay people that are never quiet addressed….ahh well, that’s life.